On Swimming and ‘seeing it through’

When you have children, it’s pretty much expected that you will attend some form of ‘baby group’ or another. You name it – there’s a baby version of it. I’ve done yoga, music, dancing, gymnastics…and swimming. Swimming’s totally tops, best of the bunch. So much so that I’ve been doing it for nearly two and a half years. I swim with a local company called Turtle Tots and today I’m guest blogging on my experience, and why anti-social little me has stuck with the group so long. Enjoy!



Guilt revisited. One month on.

Screen Shot 2016-07-25 at 19.58.15So…I recently spoke about guilt and I think I’ve figured it out. Where all that guilt is coming from. As humans we still very much live in survival mode. Sure we have nice houses and cars and pets and radiators and jam, but at our very heart we’re still pack runners. We find it hard to throw things away in case we ever need them, we get sleepy after we eat and we have a strong driving force to protect our young.

This generally means we do whatever we need to do for them, without too much regard for ourselves. We’ll catch a spider that’s scaring him even though we’re terrified. We’ll run into traffic to save her without a second thought. We’ll work a crappy job day in, day out, to put food on the table. It’s hard wired. I’ve spent the last two years in hardcore mama bear mode, and the truth is, there was no financial drive for me to return to work full time. We were comfortable with mt part time wage, so the decision was purely selfish. That’s right – this mama did something selfish.

Herein lies the problem. The majority of parents find it difficult to BE selfish. We’ve forgotten how to do it. Now I have a name for my guilt, though. I feel guilty for being selfish, which seems a little ironic, as selfishness is usually devoid of guilt. But, Milo has settled nicely into his new routine and is used to the way his weeks work now. Meanwhile, our weekends have got a whole load better as we really make the most of the family time we have.  I’m super organised with chores, laundry and batch cooking – but that’s another post for another day, and for now, everything’s working. It’s hard to believe that next year we’ll be applying for school places and then everything changes again. That’s life though, trying to put order in the chaos, and occasionally succeeding.


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Our little guy turned two recently and it was a hoot and a half. I still can’t quite get my head around how quickly he seems to be growing, but every day is awesome. Two years ago I was on Maternity Leave, which for those in the UK who qualify (read: have been working with a company with a maternity policy long enough), means you get a bit of time at almost your full wages, and then a bit of time on Statutory Maternity Pay, which is a bit crap. After about six months, you get nothing. I know that there are some countries (WTF America?!) that don’t have any form of Maternity pay and that must suck. For some women, staying home and spending time with this littles just isn’t an option, but for me, it was. I was lucky enough to stay home with my guy for seven months, and even Daddy got a month at home with us. 

After that I decided to go back to work. I realised I wasn’t happy in my pre-Mama role, so I got a job that I loved, and worked three days a week. The decision was partially financial, and partially driven by the fact that I didn’t want to lose my sense of self. I felt that it was important for Milo to socialise and spend time with other kiddos, and almost two years in, and he’s doing just great. I came to a bit of a crossroads recently, and had a lot of options available; one of which was to return to work full time, and in pretty much my dream job. It all sounds great. Milo could spend another day at nursery, which he loves, and another day with his Grandfolk, who love him. Perfect. 


All the guilt. It’s the prize that comes with having a tiny human. Parent guilt is quite unlike anything I’ve experienced before, and when it comes to guilt, I know my onions. If he goes to nursery, he won’t be spending enough time with me and won’t be a happy, attached child. If he stays at home, he won’t learn to get on with other children. If I work, I’m selfishly neglecting my kid. If I don’t work, I’m not contributing to the family and my skills are stagnating. Every decision seems wrong sometimes. To try and fix my dilemma I looked to Sweden. According to A LOT of sources, including Unicef, Swedish kids are the happiest in the world. It’s super common for Swedish parents to both work full time, and childcare is regulated and subsidised by the government. Swedish families do more in the time that they spend together, screen time is limited, they eat together. These are all things that we do with Milo. He has high quality childcare provision and we make to the most of the time that we spend together.

There’s still guilt, and I think that will be there, nagging away for a while yet. But tomorrow I will take Milo to his morning swimming lesson, dry my hair, take him to Nursery and then zoom off for my day of filming and editing. After my day is done, I’ll collect Milo, meet Daddy as he walks from the station, and we’ll have a meal that I’ve already cooked, and we’ll talk about our days. And at the weekend? The sky’s the limit.



Yep. I just turned thirty, and it’s the strangest thing. Thirty doesn’t feel like that much of a big deal to me. It’s been a good few years, and I really feel like I’ve grown into myself, into this part of my life. I’m happy with my body, my family’s ace, and I like where I live. I’m doing a job I actually love, and things are pretty swell. I want to talk a bit about my life and face and body at thirty, and who knows? Maybe It’ll be fun to look back on when I’m forty and dealing with a pre-teen? Yeah, totally fun.


I get told that my skin’s pretty good and for that I’m grateful. A few years ago I stopped fighting my skin and came to terms with its awkwardness. I have super sensitive ‘normal plus’ skin – by which I mean super dry on the cheeks, super oily on the T. I’ve found a mixture of manual exfoliation, super gentle cleansers and and a light but quenching moisturiser is working wonders. I use a Clarisonic Mia once a day with a bit of Liz Earle Cleanse and Polish, followed by Indeed labs moisturiser. In the evenings I use straight up Cleanse and Polish (with the muslin cloth), which pulls off any make-up I happen to be wearing. I sometimes wear mascara and eyebrow pencil, and very occasionally I wear Benefit Hello Flawless foundation, and maybe a cat-eye flick of eyeliner.
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So…the body thing. I’ve always had a variety of body issues-both far too big and far too small. I’ve always had trouble matching the inside to the outside. Whilst I was pregnant I lost a fairly significant amount of weight – so I was lucky that I was carrying excess baggage or I would have been very ill indeed. So. I’m smaller now than I have been for a while and I’m trying to keep on top of that. I’ve recently completed Gillian Michael’s Thirty Day Shred and I’m about to hit it again. It was awesome and hard and yes. It kicked my ass. I’ve got stretchmarks and scars and all sorts of other stories on my body, and I’m cool with that. My thirtieth birthday present was to spend 5 hours in my favorite tattoo shop getting some flowers that will never wilt.

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As we’ve recently discussed, I’ve embraced the whole capsule wardrobe thing and that’s working out pretty well for me. I’ve been sticking to dark neutrals, and I’ve finally found a pair of jeans that fit. I have a little waist, but a big butt and thighs, so finding jeans that aren’t gapey around the middle is kind of a big deal. I nearly always wear jeans and converse, a vest and some kind of baggy knit jumper on top. Although I’m less wobbly than I used to be, there’s still a fun amount of jiggle going on there. My corporate environment is fairly relaxed, and in the last week I’ve worn a black shift dress, and a shirt with a tie. I’m currently engaged in the search for the perfect relaxed fit tees, but that could take the rest of my days, so I need to relax and let that one happen. My main fashion goal this year is to wear jean shorts and not look ridiculous.


grey hair don't care

The amount of grey hair I ALL OF A SUDDENLY have is mental. Since having Milo, my hair has just got progressively more grey and you know what? I’m cool with that. I have no plans to dye or otherwise alter it. I think I can rock the salt ‘n’ pepper look.


And of course, my favorite thing about being thirty is this crazy kid that was a baby and then almost a toddler and is now growing into my buddy. He’s starting to use sentences and make up games and it’s amazing. A couple of weeks ago he ran into the kitchen, thrust out his hand and asked ‘ticket please!’. I have NO idea where that came from but he’s still doing it, so we just roll with it.

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Vive la fam. Vive la thirties.


The times, they are a changin’

Change. It’s such a funny thing. It seems to come around when you least expect it, when you’re least prepared, and sometimes, it comes without notice. It’s not until you look back on the way things used to be that you realise things are different now. That’s my favorite kind of change – the natural, organic, flowing change. Change when everyone’s ready and no one notices. We’ve had a few changes in Milo’s bedroom, which I shared last month, and there are still a few more to come.

Lo’s just entered the ‘climbing’ phase of toddlerhood. I love that he’s so strong and confident, but I hate finding him half way up the towel heater in the bathroom. He needs space to explore, space to jump, space to climb. Alas, as we live in a flat with no garden of our own, we must resort to indoor fun. All it takes is a little imagination.

And a swing.


Both via A Handmade Charlotte

We’ve decided that for Milo’s second birthday (which will be here before we know it, after the magic and noise of Christmas is gone), we’re going to make some changes to his room. We’ll be adding a bouldering wall so that he can climb safely, and close to the ground. Even though we’re in a flat, we’ll still be adding a swing, and we’ll be using a suspension bar between some joists. There will still be plenty of colour and homemade touches, but we need a place for rough and tumble.

Milo's LBB room

  1. DIY Letter bunting, Not on the High Street
  2. Child friendly climbing holds, Amazon
  3. Wooden trapeze swing, Amazon
  4. Moon landscape print, Ruby Rose
  5. Felt ball bunting, Not on the High Street
  6. Swiss cross pillow, Mama made using fabric from Etsy
  7. Mama in Law made crochet blanket

How I Montessori (and why)

We’ve been enjoying some really fun activities over the last few weeks with the little man. We follow a very loose Montessori philosophy, as we feel that this suits our little man’s temperament and our parenting style. The principles that we follow are:

  • Milo has free choice of activities
  • Everything is neatly ordered and accessible by Milo
  • Give direction and show the way, but never ‘do it for him’.

Milo doesn’t have open shelves at the moment, but he does have some open storage in the living room. This is where we keep his building blocks and his musical instruments, although they’re long overdue for rotation now. He has an Ikea Besta unit in his bedroom, where all of his toys and activities live. He’s perfectly able to open the doors, take out what he wants, and even (GASP!) put it away again, sometimes. In Montessori fashion, we encourage his independence, and try to give him the space to work on whatever’s taking his interest at any given moment. He has a low table and a toddler chair in the living room, and he takes his trays there when he really wants to focus. Sometimes I’ll lay out and invitation to play there for him, but usually the table is empty and ready for him to choose.

He eats at the main table with us and always has. He has used a Tripp Trapp high chair from birth, first with the newborn seat and then the baby set. He now has the chair totally open, and has been able to climb up and down since around 14 months. He helps to set the table by bringing in cutlery and sauces, and tried really hard to wipe the table down after meals. He doesn’t do a great job, but he knows what to do and he just needs to practice. We always eat together, and try to include him in our conversation.

In terms of activities, I wanted to share with you some of our recent trays and toys that have really held Milo’s attention lately.

Sorting Tin and Shape BlocksThis is a little muffin tin from a children’s baking set, and three pairs of blocks from Milo’s block box. He can test his fine motor skills by transferring the blocks from the bowl to the tin, and start to match up the shapes and colours of the blocks.

Gruffalo and HairbrushAs we don’t have a pet, we’re introducing the concept of ‘care for others’ using soft toys. Milo can brush and stroke the Gruffalo, and quite often then moves onto me or Daddy E.

First Words flashcardsMilo’s language skills are really coming along at the moment, and we’re trying to encourage better pronunciation so that others can understand him. We’re lucky that he uses signs so confidently, but not everyone understands these. I’ve added some wooden play fruit so that he can match the fruit to the flashcard too, if he chooses.

Chalkboard and ChalkWho doesn’t love a good scribble? The bonus of chalk is that it’s fairly harmless. The pens and paint are kept out of reach, but I’m happy for Milo to self-direct with chalk. I’ll let you know if anything disastrous happens…

BRIO Track and TrainsI’ve noticed more and more lately that Milo is more interested in putting the track together than running trains along it, so I’ve put together a focus tray based on that. He likes the puzzle element of putting the pieces together, and the satisfaction of being able to play with it afterwards!

And of course, there are a few toys that he’s really into at the moment…

Hape Shapes and Sizes puzzle
Milo likes stacking the shapes up and then putting them all back in. He hasn’t quite got the hang of the fact that the sizes are different, but he’s starting to tell us about the shape and the colour of each piece (Angle! Booo! (Triangle, Blue)) so it’s a start.

Galt pop up guysThis week Milo’s learned how to fire the guys out of their holes properly, so now it’s a real struggle to stop them from rolling under the sofa…

Melissa and Doug Cog Caterpillar (the ‘Cog-a-pillar’)

Great for fine motor as well as logic, Milo’s starting to understand how this one works, and to match the colour of the cog to the colour of the pin. All the cogs are the same size and shape, so it’s not self correcting, but he’s getting better.

I’ve got some new art supplies and a box of threading beads stashed in the cupboard for the next rotation, so we’ll see how we go with those, but for now the main thing for me to do is tune into his interests and make sure I keep things as orderly as I can so he always knows where to find things!

Six weeks later…

So, it’s been a wild ride. We did our KonMari over six weeks ago and, you guys, it’s turned out just great. Things haven’t really shifted much from where we put them, so they were pretty close to being in the right place from the offing. THere are a couple of areas that perhaps need a bit of attention – getting into the habit of getting rid of paperwork is still hard going. It’s all in the right place, but there’s still too much. On the whole, the house is as neat and tidy as the day we finished the job. Not bad, considering I’m a hider.

The biggest wins for me on a day-to-day level have been my clothes and Milo’s toys. My wardrobe is still immaculate. Yes, there’s a bulk box of nappies and a bulk box of wipes in there, but my clothes are neat, uncrowded and exciting. By which I mean I like them all. It’s significantly easier to get dressed. Having lost a few lbs, I needed to replace some key elements in the capsule, and add some for the winter season. Knowing EXACTLY what I had and where the gaps were this was actually enjoyable. With Milo’s toys, they’re all organised in sets where he can reach them to get them out, and more importantly…PUT THEM AWAY. Which he does about half of the time. It’s not a rule, it’s not a chore, he just notices that he’s run out of space and starts to put things away. It’s freaking awesome.

To this end, the ‘having more space to play’ end, I moved his room around.I didn’t mention it, but a couple of months ago we got the little man a toddler bed. We had been searching for this elusive ‘perfect bed’ for months, and weren’t sure that he was 100% ready, but when a nice enough bed came up with a brand new mattress for £15? Yep. So, he hasn’t fallen out, he can get in and out by himself without any problems. As he hasn’t had crib bars since he was 11 months, the ‘freedom’ thing wasn’t an issue either. He just stays in bed.


MUCH better. The rug is still strategically placed. When he pulls toys out of the cupboard…they hit the rug and not the floor. Inside the cupboard looks like this, 99% of the time.


Because he knows where everything is, he just helps himself. Things are static, they don’t really move around. If he’s focussing on a particular schema, we’ll tend to have those toys in the living room on his table to work on, but it all comes back here eventually. I also made a new duvet cover. I love Swiss crosses SO MUCH.


Oh room, we’ve come a long way. I hope I can keep the evolution going and always meet the little one’s needs.

KonMari and Me-how did it go?

Five days of KonMari. It’s been pretty intense. Marie Kondo suggests that the Tidying should be done ‘quickly’, which in her world means around six months. I can’t see how that would have worked for us, as I think we just would have been tidying round in circles. That being said, we still need to do the powertools/DIY supplies, and it’ll take a little bit longer to learn where everything wants to live, but taking a week off work and doing a thorough, intense Tidy was definitely a smart move for me.

What have I learned about the process? There have been some things that have surprised me along the way:

It took much longer than I expected
The things that took the time weren’t what I expected
I actually had less stuff than I thought

On my mental to-do list, I thought I would get through the categories much quicker than I did – It took nearly a whole day to do my clothes, and another day to deal with arts and crafts. The traditionally difficult category of ‘sentiment’ took me an hour and a half. I guess everyone’s different, and I personally found the logical categories harder than the sentimental categories. Does this spark joy? No. It’s a cable. I guess my beloved iThings spark joy of a sort, and without their cables they’re useless, so there’s joy in the equation somewhere.

I didn’t take a whole bunch of before and after photos, but I did manage to snap some categories as I went.
Clothes KonMari
Paperwork KonMariArt and craft:
Arts and Crafts KonMariSeasonal Decorations:
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Books KonMari

The flat feels different. It’s not just that it’s tidy-really tidy-but there’s something else. It seems like there’s balance. There’s a practicality to it – I know where things are, and it’s not a fight to find the things I need when I need them. I know that cupboards and drawers aren’t stuffed to bursting, and I know that there’s nothing I don’t need or love. How could that fail to bring happiness into a home?

I’ve bought two things this weekend, and they both filled a need and were well considered. Firstly, I found that we only had one Mario Kart Wiimote wheel, so one of us always has to awkwardly hold the controller. I like Mario Kart, even if it does make me a bit sweary, so having two wheels makes sense. Secondly, I bought a new pair of grey jeans. In my wardrobe purge I felt almost total joy through my grey (maternity) jeans. If only they were non-maternity! Oh wait…they TOTALLY make grey jeans for people that aren’t pregnant. Simple.

We’ll see what happens in the next few weeks, but for now all is well. There’s absolute joy in the flat right now, and hopefully I’ll develop mindfulness when shopping, too. Verdict on KonMari? Yes. It works for me.

KonMari Day 4…ish. Sentimental keepsakes

Day four of the KonMari has been something of a rest day for us. Mr E’s been tied up in the bathroom plumbing and building a new bath surround, and I’ve been able to spend the day with the little man. While he was napping, though, I managed to sneak in a category out of order. Photographs and sentiment are usually left until last, but as I had some time, and I can’t do the final two categories (electronics and powertools) until tomorrow, I thought ‘why not’?!

I’m pretty good with this kind of thing, so there wasn’t a great deal to go through – although I haven’t even contemplated my digital photos…-but there was still some pretty potent stuff in there, and it was nice to just keep the joyful memories.

The sentiment boxes before:
sentiment before
And after: Some of it got rehomed, but most of it got thanked for the lessons it had taught me, and moved on.
sentiment after

Tomorrow there’s just two categories remaining, and they’re logical rather than emotional – electronics and powertools. We also need to do more tip runs, charity shop runs and dropping some things back to their rightful homes. Once that’s all done and the house can breathe, it’ll be time to put everything away. At this point, it looks like there’s more than enough room for everything to have a home, which is something that I honestly didn’t think would be an option. I’ll do a big clean tomorrow and let the fresh air blast through, and wake up on Saturday feeling fresh and clear. Stay tuned for the mop up and final thoughts!

KonMari Day Three: Books (part II) and the Kitchen

Today has been a long day. Quite aside from the KonMari, my tumble dryer broke this morning so I had to make an emergency run to pick up an airer lest my laundry be stranded and soggy. I also had a two hour journey to pick up Milo this afternoon, so there was a fair bit of time lost…

I finished the books this morning, and they went from this:
books before
To this:
books after
Via a fairly straightforward selection method. ‘And another thing’ DID NOT make the cut.
screw you eoin colfer

The kitchen was done today as well, and I realised that I had mismatched plates from five different ranges stashed in ever more ingenious hiding places in my kitchen. Also, did you know that edible lustre dust has an expiry date? I didn’t. I haven’t even tried to take any after pictures of the kitchen because as I was taking the rubbish out, this happened:
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And I kind of gave up.

KonMari Day Two: Komono

Day two of my KonMari journey is over, and I’m shattered. Luckily we’ve got a two day straight without Milo as he’s having a sleepover with his grandfolks. For Mark that’s meant that he’s been able to pull the bath off the wall and replace the taps, and also fix a leak that we’ve had for a while. The new tap TOTALLY looks like a cylon though. This meant that Mark’s been tucked neatly away in the bathroom while I go to town on my stuff. The komono categories are likely to be different for everyone, and cover a lot of miscellany. For me today, that meant:
Sewing things
Art supplies
Paperwork before:
Paperwork before
hat’s a full filing box, a regular box, a carrier bag and a pile. Goshums.
Mortgage papers and house deeds, driving licences, marriage and birth certificates and bits and bobs. So much is on-line and paperless now, there’s little need for actual paperwork, do almost all of it went.
My arts and crafts piles before:
Komono beforeThis one took me far too long, maybe five hours in total. I split it into arts and crafts, and textiles. I got into a real mess sorting things out though. I snapped an in-progress shot…
Komono during
Arts and Crafts before:
art supplies before
OHMYGOSH so many pens:
pens and pencils beforeIt felt good to sort the pens out. I went through a lot of pencils until I found ones that I loved. I kept the ones that I loved, and the ones I didn’t went. It was as simple as that.
Pens and pencils after:
pens and pencils after
Total arts and crafts after:
komono after

KonMari Day One: clothes and toiletries

It’s been an interesting day. Our KonMari journey started with apprehension and frustration, as although Mr E was totally on board, he hasn’t actually read ‘The Life-Changing art of Tidying’ and my explanations were a little bit…crap. We got there in the end though, and managed to work our way through:

Clothes (his, hers and the kid’s)

Oh. I thought there was more. Well, that’s not an entirely fair estimate, as we did actually spent quite a while emptying the storage nooks and cupboards and sorting stuff into the relevant categories. This was surprisingly challenging. Usually I would discard as I emptied, binbag in hand, but I had to resist the urge and just focus all my energies on EMPTYING, knowing that the sorting came later. This freed me to go on autopilot, in which I could just put something in the right place – arts and craft, bathroom, tools… And that’s sort of where we are this evening. There are boxes and piles of pre-sorted stuff everywhere – well, everywhere that a toddler can’t reach.

I think for us, the remaining categories will be:

Cables, leads and electrical
Arts and crafts*
DVDs and physical media**

*Arts and crafts could get interesting, as my hobby seems to be collecting pastimes. I’ve got everything from knitting and crochet, modelling clay, fabric paint, haberdashery, some serious pencillage, to origami papers and papercraft. I guess I’ll find some kind of order somehow.
**DVDs and physical media should be fairly light touch. Since we Music Magpied almost everything we owned not long ago, we haven’t really gained anything new. Some collector’s edition Blu Rays and that’s about it.

So, Here’s what it really looks like to confront your hidden life and discern whether it brings you joy, in the form of my clothes:
Konmari BeforeAfter
The ‘Joy’ thing was pretty easy for me. There really was a feeling when holding each thing, and it was so nice to have the question framed in my mind as ‘do I want to keep this’ rather than ‘should I throw this away?’. I reduced my total number of clothes to 81 pieces. – including gym clothes, night clothes, underwear, coats, bags and shoes – in short, everything. Discounting the undies and specific clothes, my capsule wardrobe kind of created itself. It’s now my Joy wardrobe, and it’s 63% smaller than it was this morning.
capsule wardrobe on bed after
I learned that most of my clothes are beige, blue, grey and black, and that’s OK. I’m digging floaty tops at the moment, and I previously owned far too many scarves. This was down to the mistaken belief that I’d be uncomfortable with public breastfeeding. I totally wasn’t.
to the tip 1
I think we said goodbye (literally; read the book) to about 12 bags today, across rubbish, recycling and the clothes bank. There was a full bag of miniature shampoos and shower gels, and expensive moisturisers that I turned out to be allergic to. Razor blades with missing handles, and handles that you can’t buy the blades for any more. It felt good.

With day one over, and much gone already, I’m starting to imagine what this will feel like once we’re done. The wardrobe is an excellent place to start, and it’s no accident that it’s the first category. Getting dressed is often the first ‘chore’ of the day, and knowing where everything is seems like a good way to get into a great head-space for the day. Let’s see what tomorrow brings, with books and paperwork and arts and crafts…

KonMari T-2 Days – Inspiration

My KonMari adventure is drawing nearer, and I’m genuinely excited about the journey I’m about to take. I’m looking forward the a feeling or ordered calm and actually being able to find things when I need them. I’m also perversely looking forward to the capsule wardrobe challenge, I think it’s going to be tough to thin it out, but then so worth it when every morning I can get dressed without thinking, or fighting my overfull wardrobe only to find that the thing I’m looking for is creased to buggery.

Thanks to the wonders of Pinterest, I’ve been able to find a few pictures that spark that excitement a little further, and I wanted to share them. Next week I’m hoping to be able to post some before and afters of my freshly KonMari’d space, but for now, here’s my inspiration…

This is the Mandal bed from Ikea, and I love it, and all its promises of orderly drawers. What they look like at the moment though is shameful. This is a reminder of what we could have won.

And of course, my capsule wardrobe inspiration, courtesy of un-fancy.

See you at the starting line!

Accountability and the Life Changing Art of Tidying Up. Also, capsule wardrobes.

My favorite book of all time is probably V for Vendetta by Alan Moore and David Lloyd. (The Hitchhiker’s guide to the Galaxy doesn’t count because it was originally a radio show, and technically the books were a spin off…) There’s a line in the book that’s been floating around in my head for a while now, where Evey says to V something along the lines of “I just wanted to get rid of anything that wasn’t necessary. Do you ever feel like that?” V’s response is simply “All the time”, but then he goes off on a murdering spree…so maybe not the best role model.

All this to say, I do feel like I own a lot of things that aren’t absolutely necessary. I picked up a book called ‘The Life Changing Magic of Tidying’ by Marie Kondo, and the methods noted really resonate with me. Kondo talks about the emotional bond we have with our stuff, and how sometimes we keep things long after they’ve served their purpose. For example, we may have kept a pair of jeans that are too small for six years in the mistaken belief that they’ll fit us one day. The purpose these jeans have served is to teach us that we don’t have the time/effort to slim down, and maybe we should live in the now and buy bigger jeans? Read the book. It’s a fiver on Kindle. You may agree, you may want to throw something. For me, it makes sense.

Mr E and I have some time off work coming up, with Milo at nursery, so I’ll be Tidying (capital T) and he’ll he tiling (lower case t), and finishing off some niggling DIY jobs. The reason I’ve committed these facts to the national record that is the Internet, is to introduce accountability into the equation. See.I have to do it now, because I said I was going to. I’m curious to see exactly what I end up keeping, and what truly sparks joy in my soul. I’m most looking forward to my wardrobe, which I’ve combined with a personal challenge; following much research I’m going to take the plunge into Capsule Wardrobe Land. My aim is a true 37 versatile piece capsule, with edits each season. We’ll see how that goes, but expect to see the odd post about that little foolish endeavour soon…

The Toddler’s New Clothes

Once upon a time, I put a little thought into what I wore. I chose my clothes with care based on how they made me feel. Baggy jeans, cute retro gamer tees and cardigans were my jam. These days I’m all about the skinny jeans (they don’t drag in puddles), strappy vests (easy to change) and cardigans (Cardigans are the best). I don’t pay too much mind to what I’m wearing as long as it’s comfortable, functional and clean (ish). Milo on the other hand, is a different story. I choose his outfits each night from a well ordered closet. I make sure his socks match his dribble bib. I guess I’m hoping that the cute toddler giggling beside me will take any attention away from me.

I had a rare opportunity to hit up the shops alone this morning. I went out with the sole intention of buying chocolate, and I ended up in  Zara. I’ve never been into Zara before, but I came across their kid’s range after finding some joggers on eBay. OHMYGOSH. The joggers were soft and comfortable and roomy in the derriere. Perfect for cloth bummers…. Anyway. My trip to Zara today did not disappoint. I could have come away minus some serious greenback, but I managed to hold it together and only bought 4 things. I did, however, put together a wish list….

Zara wish list

1 Cashmere Knit Cardigan
2 Bear sweatshirt
3 Basic button collar sweater
4 Organic cotton Striped t shirt in grey
5 Organic cotton Striped t shirt in white
6 Plain white buttoned t shirt
7 Red checked shirt (I bought this!)
8 Blue nehru collar shirt
9 Grey jogging bottoms
10 Geometric print leggings (I bought these!)
11 Ribbed jeans
12 Bodywarmer
13 Fleecy grey coat (I bought this!)
14 Knitted infinity scarf (I bought this!!!)
15 School backpack
16 Classic leather plimsoles

For now, I’m content with what we have…

Milo's Apres swim outfit

Feeding Toddlers

It’s been a while since I gave you all a peek into what I feed Milo. I’ve been trying to make balanced lunches for the little man, with tastes of food from all over the world. Luckily, he hasn’t settled into a fussy eating stage, and he eats pretty much anything.

here’s today’s lunch.


Some salmon and veggie onigiri, a Babybel, a pear and some Organix gingerbread men.

He’s had lots of snacks this morning – he has breadsticks, apple slices with peanut butter and raisins. He’ll probably have a yogurt after his lunch, too. Sometimes he just has sandwiches, PB&J or cheese spread or something, but I tend to use a circle cutter to make them a bit more interesting. I like to mix it up, he’s had a smoresbrod before too, with salmon, egg and prawns on rye crispbread. Yummers!


Hurrah for Bank Holidays

The late summer Bank Holiday always takes me by surprise. It always comes just when I think that summer is over and we’re officially heading into Autumn. (Which, according to the Pagan wheel of the year, we are.) The days certainly seem a little shorter, a little soggier, and a little crisper, but that’s A-OK. I love Autumn.

We certainly made the most of the long weekend here…

Turtle Tots Swinging Sharing Dancing GRINNING PIZZA
1. We all went to ‘Lo’s swimming summer school
2&3. An ace time at a local country park. Milo loves to swing, and he’s getting good at sharing.
4. Dancing to the Smiths after breakfast is an EXCELLENT way to start the day.
5. Zoo selfies in the rain.
6. Homemade Milo-sized pizza with salad and olives. SO tasty.

I’m starting to feel the sunshine get weaker and the wind get just a little bit colder. It’s September tomorrow, which has taken us all by surprise. Time to make the most of the last summer days, and pick up a puddle suit. After all, there’s actually no such thing as bad weather. Just bad clothes.

Very British Thrifting

I read quite a few American home and lifestyle blogs. It just so happens that my design sensibilities align to select individuals across the pond. Usually this poses no problem. I mentally convert closet to cupboard, and faucet to tap, and I’ve come to terms with the fact that for most U.S. urbanites, a ‘small’ living room is probably bigger than my entire flat. (I’m discounting Brooklyn here, some of those places really are small.)

The one area that I struggle with though, is ‘thrifting’. It’s hard to translate that one. Thrift store becomes charity shop, garage sale equates to car boot sale, and flea market? I guess jumble sale. It can be hard to get excited about any of those things. I know there are people who get up as the ass crack of dawn every Sunday to hit up a car boot sale. Frankly, I’m not that dedicated. 

There is one charity shop that keeps me interested though. It’s a British Heart FoundTion furniture shop and if you’re lucky, you can find a gem or two buried under the 90’s mass produced crap. Case in point, my beautiful mid-century teak sideboard. So, when Mr E called to say he’s picked up a headboard on Thursday, I was a little excited.

Mr E is kind of Brilliant at ‘British Thrifting’ or ‘Brifting’ as I’ll never say again, and our bed has been without a headboard for two years. It’s a little thing, but it bothers me. I was so pleased when he pulled said headboard out of the car. Boom.   


Look at that. All teak and curved and sexy. I know it’s a first world problem to be bothered by a lack of headboard, but my life does feel a little bit more complete now. Perhaps one day I’ll be a successful adult after all.